Quotes from Madeleine L'Engle on Love & Marriage

-- "To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take."

-- "If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation."

(Both quotes from The Irrational Season, 47)

-- "Love isn't how you feel, it's what you do."

(Wind in the Door, 118)

-- "When we make ourselves vulnerable, we do open ourselves to pain, sometimes excruciating pain. The more people we love, the more we are liable to be hurt, and not only by the people we love, but for the people we love."

(Penguins and Golden Calves, 20)